When this was photo was taken, I was 11 years old (1971).
Hi, I’m Cheryl!
Adults described me as an easy-going, obedient young girl. They considered these traits to be my strengths; however, my obedience made me a target. I was afraid of causing trouble, preferring to remain silent and be a ‘good girl.’ Most of my neighbors or the members of my church had no idea that I was battling sexual trauma in my own household. Two men used me for their sexual gratification instead of protecting me from harm- my father, who is supposed to be a little girl’s first love, and a man who was part of my family circle. I thought my life was normal and was afraid to be anything other than obedient.
By thirteen years old, I was pregnant and scared. I was a child having a child. I didn’t know what to do, who to talk to, and at times I pretended I wasn’t pregnant. My denial did not hide the facts; my daughter was born two months before my fourteenth birthday.
I started this blog and am writing my book, Coming Out of the Fog, to share my own journey fighting through the pain of my past. I came out of the fog to stand in my truth and recognize my value. I am striving to give voice to the embarrassment and shame we may feel from situations we did not create. Unfortunately, I know that many others share a similar struggle. If you too are on that journey or know someone who is, I support you!
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